Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Taking it as it comes...


Woken up very early this morning by the smell of rain on the breeze. We have had temps in the high nineties, low hundreds for a couple weeks now. Rain, So far we have gotten .50 inches out of this storm!  There is  a projected high of 80 degrees for today. But, right now it's 60 with a slight breeze. Perfect sleeping weather, which suits Wee Willie just fine. That dog can sleep, he has unmade my bed twice now to get the duvet mounded just right to sleep in. I will wait a bit to turn on the whole house fan, since it's in the hall ceiling, right off my bedroom.


I have been trying to get the yard in some sort of shape. Chain saw, hedge clippers, hoes, and rakes have been a big help.  Hank and I have made many trips to the green waste station, and have many more to go. 

I seem to have inherited some of Dad's friends. One elderly lady has had cancer surgery and her husband called to let me know. So off to Oak River rehab in Anderson to take her flowers. As I was getting ready to leave home, I recalled that Dad and I had  lots of fun flying combat missions with our RC helos around the house. Sam the ol cowman Navy pilot (I adopted him when Dad was in rehab) lives at the care side of Oak River.  So I loaded up one of the helos and took it up to Sam. He is enjoying terrorizing the staff with it immensely.

I keep close tabs on Dad's girl friend, as she has not been well, and her family is busy and dysfunctional to boot.  Dad called her every night, and I know she misses him greatly.  But, boy can that lady talk.



Haven't gotten to take Dad up to hunt'n camp yet. The flight has been delayed by a couple of family issues. It makes me sad that it is one of the special things I promised Dad I would do, that has become another bone of contention. 
 
Trying to see that the people that need or can use Dad's stuff are getting it in a timely fashion.  Some time ago he gave me the only thing of his that I truly wanted, his pilot wings. 


26 comments:

  1. Glad you're getting a break in the weather, Brig. We had a couple of 90 -94 days and I about melted. But it looks like we're going to hang in the 70's for awhile.

    Don't worry about dad. He knows what's going on and couldn't care less. He'll get there when he gets there. Aren't families fun? We had WWIII over my dad's funeral. His sister objected to the funeral home we were using. Good grief!

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    1. Adrienne,
      If it would stay in the 70's here that would be great, not happening though, starting to get HOT again, already. I don't seem to handle it as well as I did when younger. Enjoy your being cool!
      Good grief is right, fighting over a funeral home is a new one to me!

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  2. You are so good to continue to visit the folks Dad left to you. I know any visitor brings a smile to their face, and I bet they really enjoy talking with you about your Dad.

    So far as family goes, if you were his main caregiver, and he left you in charge of sorting things out then tell the fussy ones that this is what Dad wanted, and he picked you to do it as he must have known they wouldn't do what HE wanted. Bottom line, it's what HE wanted, none of the rest of them. They can just pipe down, and go along, or go pound salt.

    Your pictures are lovely. I especially like the one of the mountain range. But you can keep the hot weather. Although we finally got sunshine (4 days in a row!!) it is still chilly during the day. And I'm good with that. I like having to put a sweater on or cuddle up with kitty under a fleece blanket. Am hoping to finish planting the garden this weekend coming up.

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    1. Suz,
      LOL, oh how I would love to tell them to go pound salt! In fact I think my lawyer may have done just that, as I haven't heard from them in a couple weeks.
      There is no place to have a real garden in this yard, just grow veggies in pots (not the same at all), Envy you your cool and garden.

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  3. I have said it before and I'll say it again...You are one hell of a trooper! Bless you.

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    1. Annie,
      Thank you. Blessings to you as well.

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  4. I woke up to rain here too. It was so nice and refreshing. By afternoon though my grand daughter was in her little pool splashing away.
    Sorry your plans have been on hold. I know how that is. Hopefully soon you can take your Dad to his final resting spot.
    We are getting my Moms house up for sale finally after almost a year. Praying it sells fast. We are all worn out.

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    1. CiNdEe,
      It looked like you might be getting some rain on the weather map that morning!
      Last few years have been a long haul for you, I know. You have that cute as a button granddaughter thought so keep the faith.
      My attorney says houses are moving well in this area now, hopefully your mom's will go fast!

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  5. You have such a good heart..wish there were more like you.

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    1. Changes in the wind,
      Thanks, but actually there are a lot of good hearted people out there, they just don't get any press...

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  6. Nice of you to be sensitive to his girlfriend's loss and being there for her. Giving away the things of our parents is a tough one. I've heard of families it totally divided over it. Beautiful photos today.

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    1. Rain,
      I enjoy that Lady, she's a pistol! Besides, she remembers me from my high school days and could tell stories of daring do about me that I would rather not have going around...

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  7. You are so thoughtful to be there for your Dad's friends and his girl friend. I am sure that is making him quite happy. The camp trip can wait and will get done.

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    1. A Patti,
      Thank you.
      Yep, the trip will get done, the way he wanted.

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  8. my mother & her brother stopped speaking for years over -- what cemetery to bury their mother in!! Even at age 15, I could see how stupid this was.

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    1. Anon,
      It's amazing the things that people will do and say in this situation. I'm having a bit of trouble wrapping my head around all the nastiness.

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  9. Sixty with a slight breeze sounds like heaven. We're done with that until about October or November now, and I was beat after work yesterday. It takes a few days to begin acclimating once the heat sets in -- and to remember to drink more water. Much more.

    Things will happen when they happen. I'll bet when you made your promises to your dad, there wasn't a specific date involved. He surely understands -- and may be right pleased to hang around with you a little longer. That's fanciful, I know. But my mother was happy to live among her African violets for a few months -- I'm sure of it. :-)

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    1. shoreacres,
      It was short lived cooler temps, but much appreciated while it was here. I need to find a big ol glass pickle jar for my Luzianne Tea, the small jug I have been making it in is not working.
      Good to hear your mom enjoyed her African violets for a few months. There was no timeline with Dad, it was the method that he had planned, nothing unusual. I haven't heard a word out of him telling me to do it otherwise. I will get it done in the manner he requested.

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  10. Great photos. The life experience continues to challenge us at every turn. Just when wisdom seems to light on our shoulder, a flame leaps up to burn it away. I find that as trite as the saying seems to be that "letting go" as often as I can does bring peace.

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    1. Cheri,
      Thanks. Aah for the wisdom to do the right thing, in the right time...

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  11. You're doing all you can do. Don't stress over things that you can't control, and thanks for helping the old Navy pilot. :-)

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    1. Jim,
      Thanking God for a good cowman attorney,because he has kept me on course.
      Sam (old Navy pilot) is a gem. He has so many stories of cowmen, cows, bad horses, ranches, and good planes!

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  12. You're doing a great job and Dad would be proud of you. Thanks for keeping us posted.

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    1. Woodsterman,
      Thank you for the kind words, means more than you know.

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  13. Spectacular photo scene. Sounds like you're being exceptionally sensitive to the feelings of others -- expect they appreciate it, as I know I would. After my husband's death the scheduled ashes distribution from air over legally designated Sedona, AZ area (as the emotionally moving High Flight was heard) was delayed by pilot for weeks due to mechanical, then weather factors. Kids and I figured husband would have been the first to understand and agree. Expect the same would be true of your Dad based on how you've described him, whatever delays you've had. FWIW a friend's husband's ashes were carried around in her car for month's until she and young adult children were able to be together to go to the coast. Years later her mother's ashes were sitting on her sister's closet shelf for some time before my friend could come from the east coast for their special west coast distribution plans.

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    1. joared,

      The plans were made between Dad & I, what he specified he wanted, and he was happy that our friend was going to take us up there. The pilot is a friend of Dad's & mine, and I'm sure Dad is OK with waiting. The issues are within the family.

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