Sunday, October 29, 2017

Through it all...



Geez, I seriously don't know how you right handed people do it.
  
This learning to be slightly ambidextrous is a challenge. I do shoot right handed, thank goodness, but can't figure out how to rack the slide on the Sig. I can surely use this as a valid excuse for getting a wheel gun.

There are things that need to be done/fixed around here before it starts in to storming later this week. The gutters need cleaned out, the leaves from the oaks need to be blown out of the borders, and the BB shot? window in the side door to the garage needs to be replaced. 



The fellow I had come to look at the window, said I would most likely have to replace the whole window unit as they are put together in such a manner that you can't just replace the glass. I could do this if it weren't for this dang bum arm/wrist.

No interest being shown in the house, and I don't know what I can do to change that given the market in this price range. The neighbor's house has had no interest shown in it, either.


 My brother is asking the estate attorney for detailed accounting's of every little expenditure, and a host of other things. I have tried to provide it all (via the attorney) in a timely fashion, apparently that is not good enough. It will be nice when this is behind me.

All that said, I'm doing good, and...







36 comments:

  1. No offense, but your brother is a dick. You can quote me to him.

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    1. I won't quote him, but those might be the same words the estate attorney said to me...

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  2. Yes, the days of just busting out the old glass pane in a broken window, slapping in a new single pane and then glazing it in have been over for perhaps a quarter of a century now, maybe more.

    Most if not all windows in houses and garages are double paned, argon filled low e high tech super insulated assemblies, $400 a pop for the whole shebang. Installed.

    I remember going down to Ace hardware, having a single pane of glass cut to my specs as I waited, grab a can of glazing compound, out the door for around $5.00. And then about 1/2 hour to install it.

    Shows that I am older than dirt.

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    1. Don't remind me, Fredd. Our glass guy will here in a week or so to replace the argon filled glass in our slider. Should be about $350.00. One by one we've had just about all of our windows replaced when the seals broke. The slider is about 20 years old now and gets blazing sun all day, so I guess I shouldn't complain.

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    2. Fredd, Yes, I well remember doing that with the old double hung windows we had. I got the quote today for the replacement window and it will be $250 installed. About what I figured it would cost.

      Adrienne, The house has a slider out to the deck that needs to have the roller assembly replaced, another case of having to have someone else do it/help me do it, as I can't lift out the door by myself. Frustrating as all get out.

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  3. I am so sorry about the arm. When I cut part of my finger off I was unable to use that hand for a while. I have always been able to write and use my other hand though. Not great but I can get by.
    Your brother is a "bad word" (-:
    I am lucky my brother doesn't do that with my parents estates. My Moms is almost over now. I will be so glad to be done with it. It is so much stress/worry and of course a lot of work. I don't mind the work, but the stressing over all the stuff is killing me.
    I hope your arm heals soon. And the house sells soon too!

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    1. CiNdEe,
      Stitches out today, and Doc said it is just going to take time from here on.
      Sorry your mom's estate has been so stressful. I agree it's not the work, and there is plenty of that, it's all the stress and hoops to go through. Will keep good thoughts for you to be done with it soon.

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  4. You are so amazing...you just keep trucking and I know your Dad is so proud of you!! Hopefully the house will sell to just the right people that will love it like your Dad did and as for your brother....he will have to learn how to be more like you....patient.

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    1. Changes, That is very kind of you to say, but there are some really amazing people in this world, and I'm far from being one of them.
      The house will hopefully get a new owner that appreciates it for the nice place it is. This was my mother's fifth house she built to her specs, and she got it right this time.

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  5. Sorry for the down times. They come into all our lives but that doesn't make them any easier. I had some time a while back and read some of your back posts, to get to know you better, and saw what a good relationship you once had with him. It makes the loss that much greater, and especially when it's one of those things you can't change, when it's about him, or those influencing him. Sad

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    1. Rain,
      Thanks, it is interesting to see how others see us, isn't it.
      My brother and I were never the best of friends, but we got along well. Then it all went South, and it is sad.

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  6. LL put it exactly the way I wanted. Does your brother have a right to those figures? I thought he just gets a check at the end.

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    1. Woodsterman,
      Technically he doesn't until the estate is settled. As admin, I chose to give him all the data requested, in the hope of alleviating some of his concerns. Doesn't seem to be helping much.

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  7. Your brother is a piker compared to the POS who shares my genes. He simply stole what was left of my dad's estate. Me? I ended up footing 5K of my dad's funeral.

    Have you thought about just leaving the house in the hands of your realtor and moving out? Leave enough so the house is "staged" and just move on with your life?

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    1. Adrienne,
      Wow, your brother sounds like a piece of work.
      I'm staying the course, the house needs to be maintained and lived in til it's sold. After that I can move on.

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    2. You have no idea how bad my "ex" brother is. Thanksgiving will be 9 years since I've spoken to him. Good riddance.

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  8. I feel your pain. I tore up my dominate right shoulder and even though it has been several years, I still don't get using the left side. How do you lefties do it?
    So sorry about your brother. Too often settling estates bring out the worst in people.

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    1. Arkansas Patti,
      One of my SIL's tore her dominate right shoulder last year, and had to wait a year for the surgery. I'm told it is very painful, and she is not a whiner.
      I would like to think that when all this is done, we can find a bit of common ground. If not than, is what it is...

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  9. I'm so sorry Brig, we had to deal with d..K in our family too after our widowed father passed away. Fortunately for us it wasn't the executor nor was it a surprise. Hope you heal soon in all ways/

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    1. Celia,
      Thanks, I'm on the road to healing, stitches out today!

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  10. +1 on LL, I'm afraid I'd tell him to stuff a sock in it. Where was he the whole time? Glad the stitches are out, and hopefully on your way to rehab and recover. You sinister people are just strange... Doing everything backward! :-D

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    1. Old NFO,
      Yay, the stitches are out, and I'm learning to change dressings using the wrong hand. Itching like crazy today, so that's a good sign isn't it?
      LOL, we are not sinister people, well I'm not. Besides, I shoot right.

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  11. Dear Brig,
    "These are the times that try (wo)men's souls..."Before long, your hand will be healed and that fact will make a big difference in how you view things. Today, I went for my first walk in a month and was surprised at my attitude adjustment. Before long, you will be flipping off your brother! Perhaps if your brother is such a know-it-all, you should tell him to buy you out and he can come sit at the house and try to sell it. As you already know from living as many years as you have, you cannot change him. You can only change yourself. Don't go down memory lane. Remember what my friend Joe used to tell me, " I don't do nostalgia, baby...) I agree with Joe. Everytime you create scenarios, stop them and just focus on NOW. It takes practice but it can be done.

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    1. Cheri,
      Good to hear you are healing up, and getting to walk again. Things that wouldn't have slowed us up a bit before, can sure knock us sideways now.
      I will take Joe's advise to heart, and your words of wisdom.
      "I don't do nostalgia, baby..." whoa, how freeing is that. Thanks!

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  12. Hate to hear about your arm--I'm a leftie too, but able to do a lot with my right hand, thank goodness. Funny that no one is interested in that amazing house! And your brother--what an ass. We had a little of that with Larry's Dad. All of the accounting is such a pain, and your brother has no idea of the hassle he's causing you, on top of your grief. Good thing you're a reasonable, and strong, woman.

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    1. Granny Sue,
      All the stitches are out now, and the arm & wrist are getting better every day. I have another crazy crash story for the grandkids.
      Thanks.

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  13. So thankful my sister and I were on the same page from the same book in dealing with our parent's affairs.

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    1. WSF,
      That sure would have been nice here.

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  14. I've been dawdling along, waiting for the post that finally showed up: you have the stitches out, and real healing's in progress. Hooray! In time, you'll be all healed up, and when the time is right, the house will sell. I have a friend who waited a good long time to sell her house, but when it finally went, she got more than the asking price because she'd gotten a really, really motivated buyer. I sure do hope the same for you!

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    1. shoreacres,
      Dawdling, haven't heard that one in a while, made me laugh out loud.
      Yep, all stitches are out, slow healing because it's deep and needs to heal from the inside out, but it's getting there. Now to get past the "side effects" of all those high powered antibiotics...

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  15. Hope you’re continuing to heal well & glad neighbors bringing you some good cookin’. I’ve had patients (stroke, brain injury, etc.) struggling to use their non-dominant hand, then had to do it myself a few years ago, but only a broken finger —still a real challenge. Wished I had followed thru on my idea years earlier to become ambidextrous just in case I’d ever be in that situation. As my Mom often said, “If wishes were horses, beggars would ride.”

    Sounds like your patience is really being tried waiting for a buyer & sure wouldn’t need family complications. Can only hope the situation will change as it surely will in the future though not soon enough for you, I expect.



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    1. joared,
      Healing up, just slow. I can do somethings with either hand, and have learned more.
      Of course, right now I want to get done with all the things I've had months to take care of...

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  16. Good to hear you're healing up. Prayers.

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