Monday, August 7, 2017

Perservering...

It was a beautiful evening last night, much cooler, slight breeze, with a few thunder boomers in a Vivaldi sky.

My grandson has been taking some great night photos. You can check out his photos on his website.
http://www.blackshield.photography/


photo by http://www.blackshield.photography/

 House...
No assessors report yet, so everything else is in a holding pattern. Hopefully it will be at my attorney's this week. I'm just kinda trudging along waiting for the next bomb to drop. I really have to be on point, cause sure as the sun is going to come up, my brother and/or his wife are going to launch another knife to the back. Even my attorney has said he's glad he doesn't have people like this in his family. Well, that's comforting as all get out. Enough whining already.

 MySean...
There will be a gathering of the clan, My Sean is getting married the end of this month. 


To see him happy,  and with someone that we all love, is so good. He's been through a lot the last few years.  I'm looking forward to driving up and spending a few days with them, the rest of the extended family, and possibly will get in some house hunting, as well. 
Just got a call from him, he has been head hunted again, so a new job starts two days after the wedding, to start with a 20% increase in salary, 40% increase in benefits, doesn't have to move, and doing something he loves. Yay Sean!

Dad...
The plan is for T to fly Dad & I up to hunt'n camp late in Sept.  Dad has been pretty quiet about being stuck in the den all this time, but then he's surrounded by flight logs, maps, pictures, and airplanes. Sure miss his hugs, quick mind, dry humor zingers, and advise.

Marymine...
Marymine called the other day, and as we were chatting away, she said to someone in the background. "It's nanny."  Then said, "here mom someone needs to talk to you." 

The masculine voice of a 26 year old came on and simply said, "I love you."  I am so humbled and blessed by those around me.

 

18 comments:

  1. I'm sorry that you're being back-stabbed by your own flesh and blood. It happens. I'm concerned that there will be a blood bath between my daughters when I go to that great dip-tank (where they test outboard motors) in the sky. I have to figure a way to blunt that. Maybe a living trust? Would that have helped in your situation?

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    1. LL,
      LOL, Great dip tank in the sky! At least you'll be where it's cool & wet, if not a little oily.
      A living trust would have helped considerably, but would not have mitigated the poison arrows that my mother put in play before she passed. Dad didn't want to do a trust, and the attorney didn't advise him that it was needed. There appears to be some validity to the ol saying: Two wrongs don't make a right.

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    2. I don't think that there is a way to please everyone. They winced at me spending $1 million on the White Wolf Mine project. I told them that they can discount it and sell it and still come out ahead. I'll explore the living trust once I'm done with all this building drama.

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  2. Families. Ugh. Glad mine hates me. I'll be leaving what little I have to the animal shelter or some such place. I have an nasty snob of a niece who probably still thinks she's going to inherit my gorgeous diamond rings. I'm getting ready to sell them and replace with paste.

    About Sean: May I have him? He is gorgeous!

    LL - you need to have an airtight will.

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    1. Adrienne,
      I gave my diamond ring to my daughter years ago, because the Cowman's grandmother gave it to me, and it has history. My mother gave all hers to a friend, fine by me, they were hers to do with as she wished.
      Sorry Sean is well and truly taken.

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  3. Something similar happened to my landlady who owned the apartment building I lived in before I met my wife.

    All of the sisters were great people, but the two brothers were "oxygen wasters".

    They came up to her at the mother's funeral and said "When are we getting our money?"....they knew my landlady was the executor of the estate, and would be selling off all the properties Mom had owned.

    I was stunned when she told me what was going on.

    So hang in there, Brig. Things will work out, and you'll probably be rid of them once and for all....

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    1. drjim,
      It should be more comforting than it is that I'm not the only one dealing with this type of thing. Just sad that it has come to this. Very thankful that I have great support from my family and the Cowman's family.

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  4. Sad that it happens in families. As others said, just keep on keeping on. You can't fix other people's greed and in the end, it'll be its own reward.

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    1. Rain,
      It is sad, indeed. I can only do my best to follow Dad's wishes, after that it's fini

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  5. +3 on drjom and rain...families can be a real piece of work. I see it every day in my job. One thing I appreciate that my folks did was maybe 10-15 years ago...they were in their early 70's I think, they sent all 3 of us girls a letter that said that they had enough money to "never have to worry about money or be dependent on any of you girls" and that when they died anything left was all going to various charities. We should not plan an getting anything. Over the years they have given all of us very generous checks at Christmas, birthdays and anniversaries, and helped with very generous checks when we each bought a house. All equally...I think the house stuff was a percent of what we had saved if I remember correctly. And that they were donating their bodies to research, so there would be no funeral until the following year when the medical school was done with them. Then the medical school buries all the bodies from that year in the local cemetery. Which to me is a little odd, but...

    When they decided to sell the house and move into senior housing, they sent us all a letter (15 pages typed!!) with a list of stuff we could put dibs in on, with the history of each piece (lots of family antiques) and if 2 of us wanted the same thing, they would decide who would get it and when, as some of the things they wanted to take with them, but they would know who to leave things to.

    Now, obviously, they are both still alive and kicking, but I can tell you, it has helped a great deal in avoiding any potential family conflicts. They gave a lot of things to the oldest grandson, who had just bought a house when they were moving out of theirs.

    I have always said that their stuff is their stuff...they worked hard for it, they have always been more than generous to family, and friends, although not pushovers, if they want to leave me some, that would be great, but, I'm not planning my life around it like many folks I know!! They have insisted on paying for the last 2 vacations on the CT shore that we all loved to go to when we were all kids, and now have been re-visiting and enjoying together as a family again, as we never know how much longer we will have them with us.

    It just seems to me to be a much better way to let everyone know what was what and how to avoid hurt feelings and stepped-on-toes.

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    1. Suz,
      What a thoughtful way of handling things by your parents. and it sounds like you have a strong wonderful family.
      Sadly, family dynamics prevent that from being the case here.
      I too, have always thought that my parents money, stuff, whatever, was theirs to do with as they pleased. They made it, it was theirs, not mine. I have not, nor wanted to, contest one single thing that they dispersed to others. I cannot speak for others.

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  6. I am blessed by my siblings. We handled my parent's passing very well and all agreed. I cannot imagine how you are dealing with this. Just glad that you know that you have many who love you.

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    1. Granny Annie,
      It is the saving grace of family & a few close friends that I cherish most.

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  7. Sounds like 'mostly' good news... And sometimes, well, you just have to 'deal' with the family issues. You aren't the only one going through that right now.

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    1. Old NFO,
      There is lots of Good News!
      And you are absolutely right, I'm far from the only one who is going through this. No more whining! Time to suck it up, and gett'r done.

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  8. I suspected something was forcing you to sell and get out of Dodge. Sorry to hear that.

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    1. Woodsterman,
      Don't be sorry, it was never "my home", and wouldn't pencil for me to try to keep it, besides I'm ready for a new adventure.

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  9. The nightsky photo is glorious. I'm going to go poke around his blog some more, to be alternately inspired and overwhelmed.

    Even though you're having trouble with some of your family, count your blessings. I'm one aunt and three cousins away from having no family, and it's sometimes depressing as can be. At least ALL of your family aren't jerks!

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